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3 Reasons Being Selfish Rocks

1. You have a better chance of being rich
2. You take responsibility for you own results
3. When you take responsibility for your own well being, you have more to give to the world.

All of this based on an article from MSNBC.com with the provocative headline: The rich are different — and not in a good way. (You can check it out here).

The whole thing got me thinking. Selfish gets such a bad rap in our culture. We’ve glamorized the idea of being a martyr. Putting everyone’s needs ahead of our own. Giving the world, our families, our jobs everything we’ve got.

We often provide our services, knowledge and skills for less than they’re worth. We believe that to be good we have to be selfless.

We’re paying the price for it. Happiness levels are at all time low.

There’s a reason they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on before putting it on your child. If you don’t, you might not have enough oxygen left to actually help anyone else.

When you’re running on empty from taking care of everyone else, you don’t have much left to share with the world. Giving starts to feel like a burden and a struggle.

All of life is that way. Including money. You can never be poor enough to make someone else rich.

What if Bill Gates was altruistic enough to give away all his products for free?

Would we still have access to the technology that’s changed the way we do business?

Would charities across the world have access to the $28 billion he’s given to make the world better?

What about Warren Buffet?

If he was empathetic enough to give away his knowledge for free, would the world still benefit from the $1 billion he’s given away?

I’m curious, what would your world look like if for just one day, you said forget being a martyr and did what made you happy?

How would the world be better if you embraced selfishness? Charged what you were worth without remorse? Took 100% responsibility for your actions without looking to others to help you out?

Would it really be such a bad thing?

I would love to hear your feedback on this topic! Let me know what you think in the comments below.


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3 Responses to “3 Reasons Being Selfish Rocks”

  1. rebecca @ altared spaces September 12, 2011 1:03 am #

    Is there a middle point between being a martyr and being selfish?

  2. Christy September 12, 2011 5:32 pm #

    Rebecca – what I recommend is checking in. Is your sacrifice/giving/helping you moving you toward your authentic & true self, towards your goals and towards your value. Or are you giving at the expense of your authentic self, goals & values? If it’s the latter, you’re def. in martyr category. The middle line is giving because it helps you and helps the other person. It shouldn’t feel like sacrifice. Thoughts?

  3. Cris December 25, 2011 5:19 am #

    I am nudging toward this slowly. I hail from the nonprofit sector which is breeding ground for martyrs. And I truly care about helping the world. I believe strongly in lifting as I climb. But I haven’t been getting much climbing in. I”m mostly standing in one place. So, now I’m looking at what it means to be a bit selfish, to put my needs before others, ask for exactly what I want, walk away when something doesn’t serve me.

    I did some pro-bono work the last two years to earn my stripes but I’ve created a NON PRO-BONO in 2012 rule. I can gift a consult somewhere if I want, but doing ongoing nonpaid work is off the table until I’m in a financial position to do so without harming my own financial outlook.

    I hear what you are saying in this post. I just want to figure out how to do both … not be all me, me, me and then 20 years from now give back (Gates, Buffet) but rather “lift as I climb”, as I said.

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