I used to be a world class emotion avoider. When it came to my feelings, I gold medaled in not feeling them.
I was a bona-fide pro.
Simply knowing that my shopping was driven by a desire to avoid a feeling was not enough for me to change.
I wasn’t motivated by a goal of not shopping. Or spending less.
In truth, those goals were hollow. They didn’t matter.
What did matter was the idea of creating wealth. The idea of enjoying my lifestyle while reaching my long-term financial goals.
What mattered even more, was the idea that I could consistently feel better. Feel good. Feel happy.
Not pretend happy.
And I could use my relationship with money to help me get there.
This meant not sugar coating my feelings (that was just another form of denial).
This meant not shopping when I wanted to feel better.
And most of all it meant no longer hiding from and avoiding those pesky feelings.
It meant exploring those feelings. Diving into what was causing them.
I discovered that feelings are a gift.
An invitation to explore my mind. An opportunity to uncover my beliefs.
The worst thing they can ever do is create a feeling.
The best thing they can do is to help me change my thinking and my life.
When I changed my thinking I started to change my feelings, for real.
I consistently started to feel better, no shopping necessary.
When I felt better, I created better results. For myself and my money.
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