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Getting Organized

It’s easy to blame money disorganization on being busy or not having the right system.

The truth is, disorganization is usually about something deeper.  

It’s a symptom of avoidance. Avoidance often comes from fear.

Unless you address WHY you are disorganized with your money, no system will cure the problem.

When the mind is scared, it goes into fight or flight.  You don’t have to be attacked by a bear or face ruin to activate this response. Subtle emotions are powerful triggers. Being unsettled, worried, stressed or unsure can initiate fight of flight.

Take a moment and consider where you might be avoiding your money:

  • Are you procrastinating paying bills? Is there one bill you keep forgetting?
  • Are you avoiding balancing your checkbook?
  • Do you keep forgetting to cancel that subscription you never use and are still being charged for?

These are all symptoms of disorganization that indicate an avoidance problem.

Want to clean it up?

  • Embrace some element of unpredictability with your money.  Your financial life is always changing. That’s not something to be scared of.  You can handle whatever comes your way.
  • Spend some time giving yourself credit.   Write down a list of all the reasons you can handle whatever happens.  You’re smart. You have skills and contacts.  You know how manage your money.  Gather as much evidence as possible.
  • Use fight or flight to your advantage.  When you believe you can handle what you see, that you can face any challenge in style, you’ll be more likely to face your money head on.

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Email me your questions on money to christy.lambert@areyouthriving.com

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